22 Your partner forgot to pick up more milk (again).
Your spouse knows you tend to be forgetful—that’s why they remind you a million times about important events in the first place. But when it gets to the point that they’ve texted you every hour on the hour for the past day about grabbing milk at the store and you still don’t remember, then they might be mad not because you forgot, but because they feel like you don’t care enough to make an effort to remember.
While the fight over forgetting the event is dumb, it might help for the two of you to talk about why your poor memory upsets your spouse so much, and what the both of you can do to avoid future conflict. And if you (and your relationship) suffer from absentmindedness, try these 20 Simple Ways to Improve Your Memory.
23 A fight over opposite-sex friends.
If you’re accusing your spouse of spending too much time with a member of the opposite sex, you might be projecting your feelings of insecurity onto them, creating a fight where one doesn’t exist. Instead of hurling accusations in your partner’s face, talk to them about your self-doubts—likely you’ll find that your worries exist for no valid reason. And if you’re seriously worried that your partner is spending too much time with someone else, read up on the 30 Subtle Signs Your Wife Is Cheating or the 30 Subtle Signs Your Husband Is Cheating.
24 Someone shoulders all the responsibility.
If you get stuck booking vacations and date nights every time they come up, then you’re more than justified being upset about it—but unfortunately, starting a fight is not going to solve anything. Instead, a more constructive solution is to have a conversation about why this isn’t fair, how this makes you feel, and what your partner can do to help. Unless you enjoy being responsible for planning everything, the scheduling responsibilities should switch from partner to partner, and you need to make that known.
