11 Someone is late (always).
Many dumb arguments continue to plague a relationship because, instead of addressing the underlying problem, spouses prefer to just trade barbs. “If one person is typically late and the other spouse always approaches it in the same way—by complaining—then he or she is just as responsible for the problem because they are not analyzing the situation,” says Dabney. If timeliness is a problem in your relationship, Dabney suggests sitting down with your partner and coming up with “another approach”—specifically, one that doesn’t involve name-calling.
